If you haven’t started talking about pornography with your children yet, you may be putting it off because you feel scared. Perhaps you’re worried talking about it might make your child curious. If you’re uneasy about bringing up the topic, you can imagine that your child is too.
Because one key factor to avoiding pornography addiction is having an open dialogue about it, here are a few things to consider:
1. Consider talking to each child individually.
2. Talk when you feel calm. You may realize that talking about the topic creates panic, anger, fear, or other negative emotions. If that is the case, you will need to learn to be comfortable with the subject yourself by talking with your spouse or friends before you talk to your children. Practice talking about it even if you feel uncomfortable.
3. If it is uncomfortable with your children, acknowledge it, and keep on talking. Here are some examples:
• Talking about pornography can be awkward, but we’re going to just let this be awkward and talk about it because you need to know the truth.
• I might not know everything about this, but it’s important that we start talking about it now. We can learn together.
• I’m not bringing this up because I think you’re looking at pornography, I just want to talk about it because most likely you’ll accidentally come across it. I did once . . .
Having open, layered, ongoing conversations about pornography and everything else will help you build trust with your child. Hopefully, with enough trust built between you, your child will come to you with questions or problems.
For more about how to help your child avoid addiction, a free webinar is available at Addo Recovery.